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Sunday, February 14, 2016

To all the boys who ever loved me.



So, I’d found that song that song, that music that I would way to and those lyrics that you would have hummed to, when we dance together at our wedding. But then I realized that I don’t think I’ll ever want to get married, so I listen to it and I sing vigorously and dance eagerly, while driving into town. I really like do that.

 A boy once sent me a quote about being unapologetically yourself. He thought this quote captured me well, and I quite agreed. I’ve overstepped my boundaries and ran my mouth off more times than I can count. On some of these occasions I’d learned a lesson, but on most I had simply acquired a red hue to my cheeks and gracelessly trudged forward.

I’ve been asking random (usually when the urge hits after two or more glasses of wine) some people their thoughts on Soulmates. I’ve asked if they believe in them, if they can have more than one, and if they’ll ultimately end up with their Soulmate. I’ve just stated asking how they know when they meet their Soulmate. The answers are always interesting and responses a little different. One said that a Soulmate means there is a person for everyone, and another said you may not always end up with your Soulmate because not everyone can handle being engulfed in such fierce and powerful feelings.
I believe in Soulmates but I’m not sure  you will end up with your Soulmate, or meet them at all. Through various Readings, I’ve been told that I won’t meet my Soulmate until much later in life, which is fair, I’m pretty comfortable with it just being Hugo and I at the moment.

In a relationship I believe there is a difference between a compromise and sacrifice. From an outside person looking in, I could never understand watching some people make the sacrifices they do for the sake of their relationship. My sister stayed in a relationship for years with the knowledge that she was betting, against the odds, on something that may not happen. Although her Partner truly loves her, he may never want to get married and have a child with her (the odds were in her favor, I’m thrilled to announce). After having one of our best visits, I learned allot about Soulmates from Shawna. I think a Soulmate is someone who, when you make sacrifices for, it no longer feels like a sacrifice. For me, a Soulmate is someone you love not only because of who they are, but who you are when you’re with them. I believe a Soulmate is someone you could be without, but you simply don’t want to. They don’t complete you, but you will want to move mountains for them, and they do make you very happy; with your Soulmate you want to be your best, happy self.

I guess we’ve all been seeking out a Soulmate. But, I really am unapologetically myself. To those who aren’t okay with my bold disposition, who can’t love my crazy, or doesn’t call me on my crap, if you can’t handle storm then don’t kiss me in the rain.

- K

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfections. To me, that is the essence of beauty - Dr. Steve Maraboli

Friday, February 5, 2016

The World could use a little more Love.




 I think I sound nicer than I really am. When I travel, I pay to volunteer. I don’t expect you to understand, and I’m certainly not going to justify why I do this, but you need to know how great it makes me feel. Volunteering provides an infinite amount intrinsic reward and warm, fuzzy feelings to such a degree that I almost do it for selfish reasons. And I don’t think I'll ever get poor by giving. I think if I do good things for people, Good Karma will take care of me. I become happier doing something for the sake of making other people happy.
 
I think that for me, the scariest thing would be to heavily rely or depend on someone. From an emotional or financial standpoint it makes me want to puke. When someone does something genuinely nice, like helping me cut firewood, offering me a bed (for when I come back homeless, with Malaria), giving me a house to live in (like, right now) I feel like I’m impeding on their kindness and it’s the last thing I want to do. But, I was given some advice recently: “When you’re offered help, sometimes the nicest thing you can do is take it.” This is a concept I struggle with constantly, but I’ve been trying to work with this in mind, and I’ve been doing it by Paying if Forward. I’m doing this by small and bigger acts of kindness; buying coffee, offering to watch friends' kids and nieces and volunteering. Perhaps even just being a little bit more friendlier.

I have this old friend in Calgary who I quite adore. In all honesty, I secretly aspire to have pieces of her personality and all of her bold disposition. Her life is anything but ordinary, from running her own boot camp, blasting through half marathons, to partaking in the Yukon River Quest Canoe Race – Twice! She’s got a side kick Golden Retriever and both of them are quite independent. She recently explained that her tenants are very privately dealing with a crippling illness in the family, which is very quickly surpassing four months. With three children and the father being too sick to work, the wife is struggling to hold it together, both emotionally and financially. My friend has done everything she can financially to provide housing, but everyone is so unsure how long this illness is going to go on for. So, while they are applying for government assistance, she, on their behalf, is seeking for help and has set up a Donations Page.

This is a great cause and if you’d like to support it, that would be great, but I am honesty encouraging you to do any act of kindness. I think that being nice makes for a better world because people will follow your lead. Between Global Warming, the Zika Virus, the Alberta Economy collapsing and everyone losing their faith in humanity, I think we could all do for a little more kindness right now.
 
Smiles,

Kirstin 

Kindness doesn't cost a damn thing. Sprinkle that shit everywhere.