The MOH Speech

Dear Shawna & Scott

I think today will pass by quickly and will be full of laughter and giddiness. The night won't be complete until you spill wine down your amazing dress. You're memories of today won't be of walking down the isle, it'll be of Kevin damn near killing himself three sheets to the wind when he decides to ride Scott's bike. It'll be of Dad's typical loud and emotional speech - slightly intoxicated. Scott's favorite moment won't necessarily be of you walking down the 'isle', it'll be the newness of that wedding band on his finger.

Honestly, I don’t believe this is going to be the happiest day of your life. I do think the happiest days are of your life are going to be a direct result of today. Because of today, you know your life path is headed to exactly where you want to go: together.

The happiest days of your life are going to be collection of small moments. They will be casual moments that aren’t expected, like Willow making her very first dessert without your help, like you and Scott buying matching his and her bikes – and then being called out on it. Moments that are a direct result of future inside jokes, of snuggling on the grass and reading books– it's not those grand gestures that matter. They are moments that you don't even realize, like the man at the Vietnamese restaurant knowing your exact orders because you and Scott are regular customers. 

I also think that the best days of your life are a direct result of hardship, because you can’t appreciate unconditional love without the trials and errors of disappointments, full blown meltdowns and verbal diarrhea. It’s about those feelings of relief when you’re able to hug Willow after accidentally locking her in your broken down Neon. It’s about apologizing for what you said when you were hungry and tired and being forgiven for it. Love is taking back ultimatums and letting someone choose to be with you.

I believe that love is friendship set on fire. It’s about finding someone who is in love with your crazy. The happiest days of your life come from waking up every morning choosing to love each other. Because Love is Choice.  And I think this wedding is simply a statement and a celebration of that.

Sometimes is not about the 9 page love letter. Sometimes, it's just about the 9 page love letter being written in your favorite colour.